X-Rated perhaps?

I have to admit – the X – rated men are eithr porn stars or too good to be true when it comes to reality.

My days of dating men, having flings and affairs have finally come to an end, the fun days are just too tiring. Getting my heart broken; just too much of engery drained and healings to cure my heart. Those days are gone.

Time to settle for just 1 man who believes in monogamy and is faithful and of course it would be great if he is slightly X-rated. Then there’s fun to it our life till we grow old together. Its not rocket science to be X-rated but atleast he will be willing to enjoy and embark being my porn star.

Worships a Religion and Me

Its always good to know when a man has a strong sense spiritual belief. He knows how to balance his life, with work, his social life and in touch with his spiritual side It does not matter what religion as long as its not a cult with hocus pocus potions and spells. Not forgetting worshipping the ground I walk upon ( a bonus )

How about the male version of Elizabeth Gilbert’s –  Eat Pray Love

Now that I frequent to the temple for meditations once a week – I often see nice looking girls – and occasionally a man in Angry Birds bermudas. But 2 weeks ago – I saw this really CUTE guy on my right – I occasionally get distracted from communicating with Buddha. I was shell shocked to see such a cute guy – and I did ask for forgiveness due to my distraction.

If my man knows how to have a balanced life – or atleast he’s willing to share my journey to India and Spain ( yes apart from Sangria’s and Tapas there’s meditations too ) I hope to travel with my man in 2015 to Spain for my MUST DO bucket list before I get pregnant.

Balancing one’s life is very important, we learn to deal with stress and much other negative energy that affects our daily life well. Its ok if he doesn’t Worship any sort of religion, but I do hope he will eventually want to share my religion with me and build the living happily after fairy tale.

 

 

Very Valuable Gem

How on earth did  I manage to almost complete this A to Z Challenge without having to think of ways to describe finding my Frog Prince with the letter V – how about just a simple verb to use to sum all his characteristics to a VERY – from all the letters A to U he is a complete VERY person. Very is a bit too much of a demanding request for sure.

Too many alphabets, too many thoughts, too many ( in my face lovely )words to describe my man…and then I thought hard again, what would my V be like…it cannot be just a simple Very… thinking thinking and after having a conversation with a little girl who’s kind enough to always help me in my cooking ideas.

She is again confused of her current relationship to which the man is so kind, so giving, so loving. Seriously, she was in a state of confusion because its hard to believe that one will wake up at 6am just to boil her herbal tea ( the chinese one of course ) just so that she’ll be able to take it to work. He cares for her in every single way but she’s not seeing herself in a marriage with this man. Funny things like these happen to my friends but never to me – I seem to be the one giving all the time, but if I truly love my man, there’s nothing about being calculative all the time to who is giving more or less in the relationship. Of course say that to any modern thinking women who strive hard for their careers, they’d disagree. Let it come natrually I told her, when you find a man who loves you more than him you will eventually grow to love him as the months go by. Chose a man who worships the ground you walk upon and not you who’s always worshipping his ground. Oh yes, if you live in the Asian part of the world, most women are slaves to their husbands or partners. Often you will find the Domestic Goddess in most Asian Women, she is a All in One person ( a whole package with looks, provides great sex, is a good mother and trophy wife ) She’s just afriad her man will stray – so these girls are called Trophy Yummy Mummy – they keep their bodies in the same way as they were before marriage and after having 3 kids .

Back to the story I told my girlfriend, now your man is a Very Valueable catch..he is a rare gem amongst the moutain full of diamonds. Don’t let go just yet, treat him equally kind and not to abuse the relationship. Its hard to find men like this in our country, so you have to appreciate what fate has dawned upon you.

Perhaps you’d think oh the man has no backbone or has an issue with being tough. Actually not quite the scene, if the man is being brought up by his mum well, taught to treat his loved one like a rare gem, the relationship could be an everlasting one. Till death do us part and Happily ever after. Of course there are some women who would tend to turn around and say that they are not entirely into this marriage/relationship so as they say – We will never be happy with what we have until God has taken it away. Oh yes, I do regret my past doings due to being immature ( 1 one says it all ) and now that I’ve gone through a whole new chapter of living, I hold my head up high and say perhaps it was fated I learn things the hard way, so when cupid has to aim at me, I’ll know what to do.

And tonight according to my Bazi Chart – I have to network to meet my frog…. Good Luck with the rest of the alphabets and Happy Thursday

Understanding – To be able to Understand a Woman

Endless battles of – Women are hard to understand, and yes we women also have to say the same thing, you men are hard to understand too. So where will this actually end ? Take a deep breath and Understand each other with your own passion or interest.

If you really love your partner – you’d learn to understand him before even complaining what he/she does and doesn’t do for the relationship.

I was a selfish piglet before this age I am constantly forgetting, I always expect my dates ( flings and affairs ) and my man to be able to understand me, jot down when i am about to PMS ( all women should be excused for this and men – when they don’t get enough sex – they too turn grumpy ( my ex boss had these strong tendencies ) So like I was saying, why is it so difficult to understand each other? Your partner’s wants and needs that will lead to perhaps a more compromising relationship or marriage. We all have our pet peeves, bad habits and so fourth but its not all that bad.

Even to be able to understand his or her character would be actually a kind thing to do. Not many people will take the initiative to even want to make an effort to understand their partner, but expecting and assuming that their partner would be able to understand them. When these kind of assumptions are made, it will lead to many sort of misunderstandings and argument. Correct me if I am wrong…but this happens everywhere you go, be it at work or your own personal life. We can never take our partners for granted and leave the assumption that – oh he’ll understand me…oh she’ll get it, don’t worry.

Then question the many situations that we have been constantly caught in – oh shit, he thought the other way, and then leads to insecurity and trust… how about wanting to lay the cards right before misunderstandings take place.

Looking back ( to which I am not supposed to dwell about the past but move on, somehow it has taught me to be a better person and wanting to be one too ) I was indeed a person that’s so hard to catch in terms of my mood swings and also a person who says one thing and not stick to it. Wanting to change was quite hard but oh well then I learnt through mistakes made and eventually correct my ways. I am not perfect but at least now I learn to understand my friends, love myself first before others and then understand men ( my male friends who often think that I am a tyrant even if I am wearing a ball gown ). Once I have built or mastered the art of Understanding, thereafter the rule of dating or even being in a serious relationship would really help me out. So I did understand this guy whom I was keen in dating but unfortunately he had a head too big for the hat he was wearing, he didn’t have to say much but from his actions and social media shout outs…Slap me again if I did go on a date with him.

Understanding your woman would help if you too allow her to understand you – this does not require that darn checklist…women have all the time – seriously checklist for dating men… ( this refers to Miss Advised to be aired on Star World Asia tonight ) my eyes are rolled up most of the times – and yes they still don’t understand – its not the Men who are at fault…they seem to forget to look inside on them…Happy Wednesday – its the middle of the week and soon this A to Z Challenge will be ending…. I have learnt so much while wanting to blog for a while and I am going to read all my visitors blogs – sorry but I have been tight with work and need to relax on reading after this challenge is over and make some new friends…

It’s all in the capital T-rust…

So we all have insecurity issues, be it if you are in a marriage or dating someone. I have learnt 1 valuable lesson from all those negative remarks, negative complaints ( oops yes complaining about something is already being negative ) and nagging that never seems to end. TRUST your partner !!!

If you are a married person – be it man or woman, so who’s responsibility is heavier than the other…vice versa…Let your partner strive hard for his/her work. Regardless which industry you are in, we are all bound by certain job responsibilities – then coming to the domestic issues, what about the kids – who’s going to watch them, send them here there, pick them up from here and there. How about we trust our partner in their jobs and yeah a little less nagging and why not just set the reminder in the phone – let there be love and compromise. Then again Trust your man / woman that he/she is not having an affair. I know its easier said than done but if your partner has succumbed to infidelity, what causes that to happen? Would you be able to trust your husband/wife that it will never happen. Are second chances worth it? For the sake of the kids – are we holding on to our comfort zones? Why does infidelity happen in a marriage and leading the untrustworthiness to happen? It takes two to hands to clap and to tango – so before we blame our partner’s fault for fooling around with that hot chick / hot pool man. Let’s just reflect on the problem within ourself before we point that finger. After pointing that finger ( yes we will never admit its our own fault all the time – its easier to point a finger at the other person than ourself! ) Are you going to Trust that person, if yes then ignore it and develop a different method to bring back the trust again. Don’t just sit and sulk, complain and make things worse. 

Let there be love and TRUST 

Coming to the dating part, so I dated a man with huge insecurity issues. I didn’t even get my own time, but yes I too was to be blamed, I had infidelity flirtatious issues. Nothing serious but I tend to enjoy the comfort of my male mates but because I keep having to remind myself that I was seeing someone, I often forget all about his secured feelings and because I did cheat on him ( it wasn’t I slept with the guy but yes I had communication with the past dates of mine ) so much so that he lost his trust in me. Oh dear what did I have to prove my love for him – changed my phone number, oh yes – because I knew I wanted this relationship to work and to be able for him to trust me. I did the above mentioned. Now thinking back at what I did, perhaps I’d stir a little argument here about me being foolish, why should I do that. Well, it was my fault I flirted, I spoke to the ex dates ( I will NOT quote Boyfriends as they were never the serious kind ) he got mad and it was my betrayal in his trust. But he always gave me my chances, to which I am very much appreciative of it. But whenever I had to go out with my girls, he always had the insecurity issues that I’d meet someone else. I think of it as a sweet thing now but then it was quite irritating having to prove myself. Lesson learnt from this, don’t be pretty – blame your parents for giving birth to good looks ( If I am a babe magnet, I’d be receiving Tulips from Holland by now…and perhaps a Rose garden by tomorrow ) 

So how what do you think? Is Trust important in a serious exclusive relationship that will lead to your marriage and in the marriage – will you Trust your husband? To be able to trust your partner, you firstly will have to trust your own instincts and yourself, once you have learnt that your heart is telling you the truth, you will then learn to open your heart to trust someone that is there ( he could be your admirer ) 

As for me, have I found that man oops Frog yet.. nope he just has to learn to leap higher…and due to the monsoon season…I doubt he ever wants to come out to play… Have a good Trusty Tuesday with perhaps a pack or two or Tequila …

A Strong Sense of Security

I almost forgot about posting the most important alphabet – S

The new C’s to a relationship or marriage is S

If you were living in Singapore you’d probably heard of the Famous 5 C’s that a woman wants in her man

1) Cash

2) Condominium ( houses are a costly buy )

3) Car ( owning a Car is an expensive mode of transportation )

4) Credit Cards ( ok this calls for heavily in debt )

5 ) Country CLub ( because its expensive to get a membership )

So I changed it to the better S

1) Sense of Security ( makes you feel safe and warm – being with him )

2) Sexy – Sex King ( need I say more )

3) Somebody reputable with power and stability ( ok this is tough and would stir a little shit )

4) Smarter than me please and Soulmate

5) Sedan, SUV and a Sports Car ( my 3 must have vehicles )

 

But somehow I settle for someone who give me the secured feeling – he makes me really safe to be with, gives me butterflies when I am with him ( hey this happens when you are with your soulmate ) He knows me well to be able to advice me in order for me to be a better person. When I used to tell my friends my kind of men, they were shocked to hear me say – I want a secured feeling man because it supersedes all the other S’s in the short list I have above. Seriously it is – I don’t have a checklist like that crazy lunatic Miss Advised reality show but its simple criterias that I hope he will have. But only I will know about that secured feeling sensation that he’ll give me on the first date – that’s when I know if I should sit in through the date with body contact…Oh yes, I am a girl that would literally run away from the man on the first date. Once in the movies, I kept a distance, he sent me home, pecked on the cheeks and I dashed into the house, he called and called and called – I switched my phone off. I know if the guy would give me that feeling because the last time I had a match make date – it took me a while to realize that the guy was the total opposite. My feelings about the security part was actually uncertain – I had some butterflies but it wasn’t the same kind of butterflies that I used to have before…

So thank you for reading my S – the main Secured Feeling Man would be MY MAN….

 

Realistic Rationale and Royally not Rude

I didn’t know where that though came about randomly.

Maybe because I want a man who is realistic – who tells me look here, I can’t tell you every freaking hour I love you but I do, doesn’t mean I don’t hold your hand in public I love you less and hey not everyday is a fairytale story. So we will argue from time to time, we will have disagreements but that means we have to compromise and lead a healthy life ahead. Deep down we are soul mates that need each other for life support – the humorous life that is…

Being rationale about buying a car – oh yes, I know most men want their fast zoomed cars…that’s why I came to the most absurd conclusion that a household needs 3 cars. 1 nice sporty car, 1 nice continental car and 1 family SUV. So no arguments to whether HONEY can I buy that Ferarri – and the wife replies…but what ever for…because you have a sports car already( if you are filthy rich enough then go buy that Ferarri ). Unless he says he’s on a Wild Hogs kinda adventure ride – Men too have mid life crisis and I always end up being with one…the last one I wanted to date – scared me with his bizarre eats despite being penniless.

Royally not Rude – yes he won’t shout in public or complain in at the most unclassy manner at a fine dining restaurant or anywhere else. If he has to be rude, have some class and tact to it. I dislike those men who seem to be clad in designer shoes and dressed up kind without having manners…both table manners and verbally rude. Even if you have to lodge a complain, do it in a most stylish sacarstic manner you can think of. The main criteria for my man also he cannot be rude – I have low tolerance level for rude people and most likely would need glasses of single malt whiskies before 5pm.

Everytime I have to attend work dinners or luncheons, I often see how the men tries to impress their partner/wife. Observing the opposite too makes me laugh internally…and when they complain there is not enough of Wines served….I say to myself…geeze where is your class Mr Rude…if you want to impress then buy her a bottle of wine, after all its still cheaper than that Tiffany & Co Charm Bracelet. Oh yes, most men hardly date women ( the girls that they change so often just like when they change their shirts) and take them to an extreme expensive wine dinner…in most cases the expensive wine dinners or formal dinners are meant to be left for their wife. As for me, if I think my man needs a treat to an expensive dinner, why not…afterall he’s paid 80% of the times we have had our meals and 20% left is ok for me…and I will make it a good quality 20% meal.

Quirky Dorky Geek

Have you ever watched that show on Starworld – the blondes dating geeks of all sorts?

What about the ever finding that Technical Support guy in your office department – sexy in that scrawny t-shirt and jeans, even though he’s wearing glasses and has a problem face? I am sure in every one of us women ( always think you are beautiful in every single way – If you are over weight or under weight, there’s always something gorgeous about you…and remember that ) I keep telling my girlfriend ( no I am not into her ) that she has a pretty face and Angeline Jolie, full on lips – seriously women pay to get those kind of lips and she is indeed gorgeous with brains and witty kind and confident and a goal getter… She’s every man’s dream to most likely be in bed with. Oh yes she is sexy and brainy…

So we had this conversation about good looking men – Do I go for looks? Thinking back – to the men that I have dated or had flings with… They all had 1 thing in common – GLASSES…most of them wore glasses… I have a weak spot for geeks in glasses ( Quirky Man )…and to the conclusion I never dated a good looking man ( erm yes I did…he was a refined boy and still is one…he hasn’t quite grown into being a man )

Because I find them Quirky ( designer glasses of course ) Dorky because of their occupation and a Geek because they are more tech savvy than me.

Its like having a Britney moment on the dental chair ( if you are a GLEE fan you would know what I am talking about ) Did you not notice that the dentist was indeed HOT. Yeah which is linked to the opposite attraction blog earlier…

Being Quirky with a twist and not many has a twist to my man and not many men have that flair. Touches of fashion savvy to add to his quirkiness.

Women too have their own set of quirkiness – no matter what happens they have a thing for shoes and killer heels… I’m sure the men out there that I will meet by fate one day has his quirky sense to entice me.

Passion-ally Passionate

1 word says it all PASSION – He must have passion in his life, for his work and career first and foremost, because this person will then have drive to go to work everyday and build his career. My man must be very career driven, because I need a man who can also guide me through and for us to exchange views and ideas. After work is done, he can have interests that he’s passionate about too. It’s ok if he wants to spend his Sunday’s at the golf course and with his buddies. There must be a space between man and woman – because we all need that space otherwise the relationship can be intoxicating. Not forgetting the passion he has to be *in bed* – no wham bam thank you partner kind, quickies are different but Passion in bed is a must have too!

A person must be passionate and has passion for everything he/she does in his soul

Passion driven people have positiveness in them, there may be moments of feeling down and lost but its ok, when you have your other half being passionate about being a joker or an opposite attraction man/woman – who know’s what will happen.

Always have balance in your life – Have you seen the brightest stars shine like diamonds in the dark…seen all the wonders of the world….and one has a passionate heart… for singing…

Have you ever thought of getting married on a vineyard or have a vineyard wedding theme decorated ballroom. Or at The Dusun – but giving out mosquito nets as wedding favors might be a wise choice though… Yes I admit – I have a passion for imagination amongst other things…

What’s your passion my unfound frog?

Opposite Attraction and on the Opposition’s Side

Due to the elections coming up back home, it got me thinking about what I want in my man – would I want to date a man who is into politics? A lawyer ( yes I dated 3 lawyers to which only 1 was a smarter person, the other 1 was an ass who never respects a woman and the last one I dated needed to marry a girl who was either from the village ( pretty much a yes person and oh to die for pretty ) and yes he did marry her ( I had to attend his wedding and had some fun too seated beside a married man who kept interrogating me if I dated the groom ). Would I possibly date a man who is the total opposite of me?

Yes I would, the last guy I dated that surprisingly lasted for more than 1 year ( I have this 1 year change/return policy ). He was someone I would never imagine I would ever bother to take a second look or have second thoughts about.

Having someone who is not you, someone who is the opposite of you might just work out. Its boring to date a man who is you, its like dating yourself, don’t you think? So I admit, he has to have a strong flair for business deals and acquisitions, he is most likely to have THE MOST BORING job that I’ll ever end up doing/working in. He could be an Engineer, Doctor, Lawyer …yeah the opposite of my job that no one will ever guess what I do for a living ( I don’t even dress my occupation ever at all / only when the need arises )

It’s not because he’ll be making loads of money, but I someone find these kind of men attractive enough for me to go on dates with. Perhaps we will have other things to talk about apart from our job occupations but interests in other things. Finer things in life, traveling, cooking…eating ( yes, all sorts of food…) and the list goes on…I don’t care if he’s into weird things, and a man always needs his space – so yeah I prefer a man who is the opposite of me.  Have you dated anyone who is in the same line of job you are in?

A man who is the opposite of you might create a yin and yang balance. Depending how you want to make things work both long term and short term.