My Zappy Zealous Zany Man – Zeepiddeedoodah

The Grand Finale of A to Z Challenge

It has been a long alphabetical post – it has taught me to

1) Make new blog friends ( I have to visit all your blogs frequently – and I will )

2) Comment on other bloggers post ( I will now have more time to read, like and comment )

3) Instil the discipline of blogging – regardless of how lazy the fingers and mind can be

4) Preplanning ahead what to blog – its like writing a story – in my case ideas for a story or a story that sends one to Laughingville

So today the Grand Finale Alphabet – the Letter Z(ee) or Z(at)

I had 3 words to use Zappy ( it means Full of Energy ) Zealous ( it means Inspired ) Zany ( it means ludicrous or buffoonish character in the old comedies )

What does this last blog mean…??

May the fairy of all God mothers please bless me with a man who is full of energy – positive vibes and is always on the go kind and must please oh must be good in bed for if I am going to be in a monogamous relationship and if I am going to marry this man – please let him be my only Sexy God…

Zealous – he is an inspiring man who wants me to be the better person, now changing to someone I am not, wasn’t what I had in mind, but he inspires me to change my bad habits and tempers, be more patient and open hearted…

Lastly he is a buffoon to my eyes, come one – you never dated a man who was that goofy kind of lover to you? I had him, the things he’d crack me rolling my eyes and says the earnest things.

No matter how serious he is at work, or he complains till the cows come home, I still find him super sexy and cute with this character. Shake his ass after sex… ( ok too much information ) well lets just say – A man who wears a suit, has his soft spots and is darn sexy too. He may not have a million dollars ( though yeah it matters now when the economic is not that good and cash is king ) but if he has an attitude that wants to make millions – I was talking about an achievable mindset not those who think and dream of MONEY but not thinking of ways to get it. Funny and Inspiring and also give me the sense of security – and goes down on bended knee ( with my 5-carat diamond ring ) I’d most likely to say yes by 60% – the other 40% has to do with my judgement and well what my heart says versus the practicality of my man.

So May the Haunt for my Frog Prince continues…and like I told my friend… I am hoping that the frog knows how to Leap/Jump to the second floor…and since its the Rainy Season…there are more tadpoles made and frogs mating… or perhaps moving to the Riverside would be a better choice…

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Understanding – To be able to Understand a Woman

Endless battles of – Women are hard to understand, and yes we women also have to say the same thing, you men are hard to understand too. So where will this actually end ? Take a deep breath and Understand each other with your own passion or interest.

If you really love your partner – you’d learn to understand him before even complaining what he/she does and doesn’t do for the relationship.

I was a selfish piglet before this age I am constantly forgetting, I always expect my dates ( flings and affairs ) and my man to be able to understand me, jot down when i am about to PMS ( all women should be excused for this and men – when they don’t get enough sex – they too turn grumpy ( my ex boss had these strong tendencies ) So like I was saying, why is it so difficult to understand each other? Your partner’s wants and needs that will lead to perhaps a more compromising relationship or marriage. We all have our pet peeves, bad habits and so fourth but its not all that bad.

Even to be able to understand his or her character would be actually a kind thing to do. Not many people will take the initiative to even want to make an effort to understand their partner, but expecting and assuming that their partner would be able to understand them. When these kind of assumptions are made, it will lead to many sort of misunderstandings and argument. Correct me if I am wrong…but this happens everywhere you go, be it at work or your own personal life. We can never take our partners for granted and leave the assumption that – oh he’ll understand me…oh she’ll get it, don’t worry.

Then question the many situations that we have been constantly caught in – oh shit, he thought the other way, and then leads to insecurity and trust… how about wanting to lay the cards right before misunderstandings take place.

Looking back ( to which I am not supposed to dwell about the past but move on, somehow it has taught me to be a better person and wanting to be one too ) I was indeed a person that’s so hard to catch in terms of my mood swings and also a person who says one thing and not stick to it. Wanting to change was quite hard but oh well then I learnt through mistakes made and eventually correct my ways. I am not perfect but at least now I learn to understand my friends, love myself first before others and then understand men ( my male friends who often think that I am a tyrant even if I am wearing a ball gown ). Once I have built or mastered the art of Understanding, thereafter the rule of dating or even being in a serious relationship would really help me out. So I did understand this guy whom I was keen in dating but unfortunately he had a head too big for the hat he was wearing, he didn’t have to say much but from his actions and social media shout outs…Slap me again if I did go on a date with him.

Understanding your woman would help if you too allow her to understand you – this does not require that darn checklist…women have all the time – seriously checklist for dating men… ( this refers to Miss Advised to be aired on Star World Asia tonight ) my eyes are rolled up most of the times – and yes they still don’t understand – its not the Men who are at fault…they seem to forget to look inside on them…Happy Wednesday – its the middle of the week and soon this A to Z Challenge will be ending…. I have learnt so much while wanting to blog for a while and I am going to read all my visitors blogs – sorry but I have been tight with work and need to relax on reading after this challenge is over and make some new friends…

It’s all in the capital T-rust…

So we all have insecurity issues, be it if you are in a marriage or dating someone. I have learnt 1 valuable lesson from all those negative remarks, negative complaints ( oops yes complaining about something is already being negative ) and nagging that never seems to end. TRUST your partner !!!

If you are a married person – be it man or woman, so who’s responsibility is heavier than the other…vice versa…Let your partner strive hard for his/her work. Regardless which industry you are in, we are all bound by certain job responsibilities – then coming to the domestic issues, what about the kids – who’s going to watch them, send them here there, pick them up from here and there. How about we trust our partner in their jobs and yeah a little less nagging and why not just set the reminder in the phone – let there be love and compromise. Then again Trust your man / woman that he/she is not having an affair. I know its easier said than done but if your partner has succumbed to infidelity, what causes that to happen? Would you be able to trust your husband/wife that it will never happen. Are second chances worth it? For the sake of the kids – are we holding on to our comfort zones? Why does infidelity happen in a marriage and leading the untrustworthiness to happen? It takes two to hands to clap and to tango – so before we blame our partner’s fault for fooling around with that hot chick / hot pool man. Let’s just reflect on the problem within ourself before we point that finger. After pointing that finger ( yes we will never admit its our own fault all the time – its easier to point a finger at the other person than ourself! ) Are you going to Trust that person, if yes then ignore it and develop a different method to bring back the trust again. Don’t just sit and sulk, complain and make things worse. 

Let there be love and TRUST 

Coming to the dating part, so I dated a man with huge insecurity issues. I didn’t even get my own time, but yes I too was to be blamed, I had infidelity flirtatious issues. Nothing serious but I tend to enjoy the comfort of my male mates but because I keep having to remind myself that I was seeing someone, I often forget all about his secured feelings and because I did cheat on him ( it wasn’t I slept with the guy but yes I had communication with the past dates of mine ) so much so that he lost his trust in me. Oh dear what did I have to prove my love for him – changed my phone number, oh yes – because I knew I wanted this relationship to work and to be able for him to trust me. I did the above mentioned. Now thinking back at what I did, perhaps I’d stir a little argument here about me being foolish, why should I do that. Well, it was my fault I flirted, I spoke to the ex dates ( I will NOT quote Boyfriends as they were never the serious kind ) he got mad and it was my betrayal in his trust. But he always gave me my chances, to which I am very much appreciative of it. But whenever I had to go out with my girls, he always had the insecurity issues that I’d meet someone else. I think of it as a sweet thing now but then it was quite irritating having to prove myself. Lesson learnt from this, don’t be pretty – blame your parents for giving birth to good looks ( If I am a babe magnet, I’d be receiving Tulips from Holland by now…and perhaps a Rose garden by tomorrow ) 

So how what do you think? Is Trust important in a serious exclusive relationship that will lead to your marriage and in the marriage – will you Trust your husband? To be able to trust your partner, you firstly will have to trust your own instincts and yourself, once you have learnt that your heart is telling you the truth, you will then learn to open your heart to trust someone that is there ( he could be your admirer ) 

As for me, have I found that man oops Frog yet.. nope he just has to learn to leap higher…and due to the monsoon season…I doubt he ever wants to come out to play… Have a good Trusty Tuesday with perhaps a pack or two or Tequila …

A Strong Sense of Security

I almost forgot about posting the most important alphabet – S

The new C’s to a relationship or marriage is S

If you were living in Singapore you’d probably heard of the Famous 5 C’s that a woman wants in her man

1) Cash

2) Condominium ( houses are a costly buy )

3) Car ( owning a Car is an expensive mode of transportation )

4) Credit Cards ( ok this calls for heavily in debt )

5 ) Country CLub ( because its expensive to get a membership )

So I changed it to the better S

1) Sense of Security ( makes you feel safe and warm – being with him )

2) Sexy – Sex King ( need I say more )

3) Somebody reputable with power and stability ( ok this is tough and would stir a little shit )

4) Smarter than me please and Soulmate

5) Sedan, SUV and a Sports Car ( my 3 must have vehicles )

 

But somehow I settle for someone who give me the secured feeling – he makes me really safe to be with, gives me butterflies when I am with him ( hey this happens when you are with your soulmate ) He knows me well to be able to advice me in order for me to be a better person. When I used to tell my friends my kind of men, they were shocked to hear me say – I want a secured feeling man because it supersedes all the other S’s in the short list I have above. Seriously it is – I don’t have a checklist like that crazy lunatic Miss Advised reality show but its simple criterias that I hope he will have. But only I will know about that secured feeling sensation that he’ll give me on the first date – that’s when I know if I should sit in through the date with body contact…Oh yes, I am a girl that would literally run away from the man on the first date. Once in the movies, I kept a distance, he sent me home, pecked on the cheeks and I dashed into the house, he called and called and called – I switched my phone off. I know if the guy would give me that feeling because the last time I had a match make date – it took me a while to realize that the guy was the total opposite. My feelings about the security part was actually uncertain – I had some butterflies but it wasn’t the same kind of butterflies that I used to have before…

So thank you for reading my S – the main Secured Feeling Man would be MY MAN….

 

Realistic Rationale and Royally not Rude

I didn’t know where that though came about randomly.

Maybe because I want a man who is realistic – who tells me look here, I can’t tell you every freaking hour I love you but I do, doesn’t mean I don’t hold your hand in public I love you less and hey not everyday is a fairytale story. So we will argue from time to time, we will have disagreements but that means we have to compromise and lead a healthy life ahead. Deep down we are soul mates that need each other for life support – the humorous life that is…

Being rationale about buying a car – oh yes, I know most men want their fast zoomed cars…that’s why I came to the most absurd conclusion that a household needs 3 cars. 1 nice sporty car, 1 nice continental car and 1 family SUV. So no arguments to whether HONEY can I buy that Ferarri – and the wife replies…but what ever for…because you have a sports car already( if you are filthy rich enough then go buy that Ferarri ). Unless he says he’s on a Wild Hogs kinda adventure ride – Men too have mid life crisis and I always end up being with one…the last one I wanted to date – scared me with his bizarre eats despite being penniless.

Royally not Rude – yes he won’t shout in public or complain in at the most unclassy manner at a fine dining restaurant or anywhere else. If he has to be rude, have some class and tact to it. I dislike those men who seem to be clad in designer shoes and dressed up kind without having manners…both table manners and verbally rude. Even if you have to lodge a complain, do it in a most stylish sacarstic manner you can think of. The main criteria for my man also he cannot be rude – I have low tolerance level for rude people and most likely would need glasses of single malt whiskies before 5pm.

Everytime I have to attend work dinners or luncheons, I often see how the men tries to impress their partner/wife. Observing the opposite too makes me laugh internally…and when they complain there is not enough of Wines served….I say to myself…geeze where is your class Mr Rude…if you want to impress then buy her a bottle of wine, after all its still cheaper than that Tiffany & Co Charm Bracelet. Oh yes, most men hardly date women ( the girls that they change so often just like when they change their shirts) and take them to an extreme expensive wine dinner…in most cases the expensive wine dinners or formal dinners are meant to be left for their wife. As for me, if I think my man needs a treat to an expensive dinner, why not…afterall he’s paid 80% of the times we have had our meals and 20% left is ok for me…and I will make it a good quality 20% meal.

Quirky Dorky Geek

Have you ever watched that show on Starworld – the blondes dating geeks of all sorts?

What about the ever finding that Technical Support guy in your office department – sexy in that scrawny t-shirt and jeans, even though he’s wearing glasses and has a problem face? I am sure in every one of us women ( always think you are beautiful in every single way – If you are over weight or under weight, there’s always something gorgeous about you…and remember that ) I keep telling my girlfriend ( no I am not into her ) that she has a pretty face and Angeline Jolie, full on lips – seriously women pay to get those kind of lips and she is indeed gorgeous with brains and witty kind and confident and a goal getter… She’s every man’s dream to most likely be in bed with. Oh yes she is sexy and brainy…

So we had this conversation about good looking men – Do I go for looks? Thinking back – to the men that I have dated or had flings with… They all had 1 thing in common – GLASSES…most of them wore glasses… I have a weak spot for geeks in glasses ( Quirky Man )…and to the conclusion I never dated a good looking man ( erm yes I did…he was a refined boy and still is one…he hasn’t quite grown into being a man )

Because I find them Quirky ( designer glasses of course ) Dorky because of their occupation and a Geek because they are more tech savvy than me.

Its like having a Britney moment on the dental chair ( if you are a GLEE fan you would know what I am talking about ) Did you not notice that the dentist was indeed HOT. Yeah which is linked to the opposite attraction blog earlier…

Being Quirky with a twist and not many has a twist to my man and not many men have that flair. Touches of fashion savvy to add to his quirkiness.

Women too have their own set of quirkiness – no matter what happens they have a thing for shoes and killer heels… I’m sure the men out there that I will meet by fate one day has his quirky sense to entice me.

Passion-ally Passionate

1 word says it all PASSION – He must have passion in his life, for his work and career first and foremost, because this person will then have drive to go to work everyday and build his career. My man must be very career driven, because I need a man who can also guide me through and for us to exchange views and ideas. After work is done, he can have interests that he’s passionate about too. It’s ok if he wants to spend his Sunday’s at the golf course and with his buddies. There must be a space between man and woman – because we all need that space otherwise the relationship can be intoxicating. Not forgetting the passion he has to be *in bed* – no wham bam thank you partner kind, quickies are different but Passion in bed is a must have too!

A person must be passionate and has passion for everything he/she does in his soul

Passion driven people have positiveness in them, there may be moments of feeling down and lost but its ok, when you have your other half being passionate about being a joker or an opposite attraction man/woman – who know’s what will happen.

Always have balance in your life – Have you seen the brightest stars shine like diamonds in the dark…seen all the wonders of the world….and one has a passionate heart… for singing…

Have you ever thought of getting married on a vineyard or have a vineyard wedding theme decorated ballroom. Or at The Dusun – but giving out mosquito nets as wedding favors might be a wise choice though… Yes I admit – I have a passion for imagination amongst other things…

What’s your passion my unfound frog?

its gonna be Love-Lust-Length-Lomantic( broken chinese lingo ) mainly its LOVE

Singing yet another Nat King Cole song – and I still LOVE the old love songs, Love songs my late grandmother played while I’d dance to it, love songs I grew up listening to…and Love songs I’d play on my wedding day…till my friends will most likely to throw the iPod at my direction begging to stop playing Natalie Cole’s A Smile Like Yours… while I walk down the ballroom or the aisle and dance to it.

L is for the way you look at me
O is for the only one I see
V is very, very extraordinary
E is even more than anyone that you adore and

Love is all that I can give to you
Love is more than just a game for two
Two in love can make it
Take my heart and please don’t break it
Love was made for me and you

All women want  is LOVE in the relationship and that hopefully would eventually lead to a marriage and NOT end up in a divorce and live happily ever after ( being in a monogamous marriage, no thoughts of infidelity ). Every or most women do want to get married, but do most of them marry the man they love and vice versa? I have about a few friends who got married for the wrong reason and all the L’s somehow didn’t work.

Love – they were dating, the usual I LOVE YOU’s exchange…

Lust – someone was most definitely wearing Beer Googles….when lust took place…

Length – referring to Length of the guy’s penis, the length of foreplay, the length of achieving orgasms ( both guy and girl )

Lomantic – A chinese lingo for those who cannot pronounce the letter R and rolling tongue to that – ROMANTIC – I am a fool for this romantic shit…so if I don’t get a nice kiss on the first date, first meet…I doubt the date will carry on further

Love works both ways, if women want to be loved, get that unconditional love, endless love with lust… then show your man that you deserve it. You are his woman that he will Love unconditionally and will make endless love to and till death you do part. Perhaps this is a sensitive topic – LOVE but you know it when you have experienced it. You may or may not marry the one you love or you think you do love in ways, or fall out of love. I made a mistake by telling my partner once I love him…I think it was too much and in his face…if only I’d control my emotions and feelings, I wouldn’t be the weaker one in getting hurt.

I just hope my man loves me more than I love him…or at least equally. Simply just Love me will you…?

My girlfriend reminded me on a quote that was mentioned in Sex and the City movie by SJP’s assistant…Everyone is Looking for Love…and wants to be loved…I think so too…may you be a man or a woman…regardless – So love each other dearly till death do you part…never take each other for granted and learn to work things out… LOVE is a strong vibe of energy…

Emotional Ego

Most of us would say, yeah real men cry…but how many often DO CRY?

After months of my emotional release, I found it pretty normal for me to cry so easily. So what if I’m watching Hawaii Five-O and crying, if I cry so can my man too!

I still remember the day when my old man cried, he told me his problems and I have never seen my dad cry as a child. Its all the accumulated pain, sorrow and disappointment. So now that I am older, I seem to understand why real men cry. They are not afraid to share and voice out their inner thoughts and views. They just need someone whom they can trust to share how and what they feel.

My man cried when we knew that our relationship wasn’t going anywhere, it wasn’t healthy for both of us too. What made me love him is that I could always sense his emotional ego and he was never egoistic about showing his emotional side too.

Its quite loving to have a man who has his emotional side, this brings him to being a sensitive lover, understanding, caring and less chauvinistic. These could actually be a positive quality to suppress a man’s hot temperedness, leading to quarrels and miscommunication with their partner.

So the next time you are going for that therapeutic meditation class or seminar, why not bring your man on a date to some wholesome emotional release class. You never know it could help to enhance your relationship, don’t be shy to cry my dear man, for your tears could help you to unleash of depth of your emotional cleansing. This is not just for your man but its for both the couple in to have a better relationship and understanding.

Affectionate with an Attitude

A MAN who is not Afraid of displaying his Affection for you is A-Man

He holds your hand when you go out, kisses you when you are sick and is not afraid of the contagious stomach flu….he loves you even more if your face is flared with eczema and still thinks you are beautiful.

He kisses you just when you turn around in public. Hugs you when you need that hug after that stressful event that you’ve organized at work. He holds your hand to bed every night even though he needs his space, because he loves you and wants you to feel his affection.

He has his romantic moments in the most cutest way and that to you is his way of showing his affection. He surprises you in the most peculiar manner and ways that you can never think of he’d do it. Shell shocking but hey he is affectionate in his own original way. Because he is truly affectionate and loving in every single way. He loves you after all.